One of the most important lessons I’ve learned as a public speaking coach is that trying to emulate someone else’s style can be a recipe for disaster.
Many of my clients have come to me with the goal of delivering a high-energy, dynamic presentation, often inspired by the likes of TED talks. However, through our work together, they’ve discovered that their own unique approach – when properly channelled – is often what truly sets them apart and commands attention.
When speakers are able to tap into their authentic voice and style, they’re able to connect with their audience on a deeper level and deliver a more compelling and memorable presentation. This is a lesson that I’ve seen play out time and time again, and it’s one that I try to instil in all of my clients. By embracing their individuality and finding their own unique voice, speakers can unlock their full potential and deliver presentations that truly resonate with their audience.
The Power of Strategic Imperfection
Here’s what most public speaking coaches won’t tell you: perfect delivery often creates distance between you and your audience. Instead, try:
- The Reset Technique
When you feel your energy dropping:
- Take a deliberate sip of water
- Move to a different spot on stage
- Ask your audience a question These aren’t just breaks—they’re strategic tools for energy management.
- The Pause Portfolio
Different types of pauses for different effects:
- The “Let that sink in” pause (after key points)
- The “I’m about to say something important” pause (before key points)
- The “I’m thinking aloud here” pause (during complex explanations)
The Science of Voice
Some public speaking coaches forget to emphasise: your voice is a precision instrument, not just a volume control. Try these tips:
- Drop your tone at the end of key statements (creates instant authority)
- Raise it slightly when building to a crucial point (creates anticipation)
- Use a slower pace and lower register for critical information (improves retention)
- Match your breathing to your key points (helps audience processing)
Physical Presence: The 45-Degree Rule
Instead of facing your audience head-on constantly (which can feel confrontational), try this:
- Position yourself at a 45-degree angle when telling stories
- Create a “golden triangle” on stage – three points you move between for different parts of your message
- Step forward deliberately for emphasis, rather than pacing randomly
Think of the stage as a chess board – each position should be strategic and meaningful.
The 3-3-3 Framework
Want to know how TED talk speakers create memorable talks? They usually follow this pattern (whether they realise it or not):
- 3 key messages (human brain’s natural grouping)
- 3 supporting points for each (creates rhythm)
- 3 ways to express each point (story, data, example)
This isn’t just a template – it’s how human attention naturally flows.
Ready to Take Your Public Speaking Skills to the Next Level?
By incorporating the techniques and strategies outlined in this article & part 1, you’ll be well on your way to becoming a more confident and effective public speaker. However, if you’re looking for personalised guidance and support to help you achieve your goals, I’d love to work with you.
Whether you’re based in Oxford or prefer online public speaking coaching, I offer bespoke one-on-one public speaking sessions designed to help you overcome your public speaking challenges and develop the skills you need to succeed.
Whether you join me in Oxford or online, we’ll focus on:
- Finding your authentic speaking power (not copying someone else’s style)
- Building flexible communication tools (not rigid rules)
- Developing genuine presence (not artificial techniques)
A Different Approach to Preparation
Here’s what makes our work together different:
- We start with your natural strengths rather than trying to fix “flaws”
- We develop techniques that feel authentic to you
- We focus on impact rather than perfection
Ready for Real Change?
If you’re tired of generic public speaking advice and ready to discover your authentic speaking power, let’s talk. Whether you’re preparing for a specific event or building long-term communication skills, I’ll help you find your unique voice and presence.
Book a free consultation to discuss how we can transform your speaking approach while staying true to who you are.
Drawing from over a decade of experience in theatre and professional speaking coaching, I help clients discover their unique communication style. Based in Oxford but teaching globally, I bring practical techniques that work in real-world situations—not just theory from a textbook.
public speaking coach Oxford | public speaking masterclass | how to find the best public speaking coach